A fun quiz to learn what kind of Domme you are!? No not this time… But I have always had such a hard time articulating what style of Domme I am, because I don’t know that I fit any one particular category, and I wanted to share a bit about finding myself among labels that just never seem to fit.

So, you’ve done your research. You know the rules, you understand the acronyms, you’ve made drop dead gorgeous content, and found the perfect name. But now you’re faced with reality that there are a thousand other dominant individuals that have done the exact same thing. So, let’s talk about building a brand and establishing an identity that makes you stand out among the masses.

There are common themes in this community, and common disagreements, but one thing I would hope we all agree on is that predatory subs do not have a place in this community. Unfortunately, far too often they are given a voice and support because they appeal to our egos as Dommes. They make themselves out to be a “challenge” and the language they use, the way they speak, and the money they wave like a trophy beckons many of us. But if you know what to look for you can avoid them and not give them the attention they seek.

Not a Domme post, but rather a moment to address and maybe process some of my experiences as a person and how they shaped who I am now. Also, a little bit of coming to terms with not being who I want to be.

The reality is: there will always be someone that hates you. Especially in the Findom community. This place is built on greed and insecurities, so of course there’s bound to be points of contention. You can do everything right, and they'll still do all they can to make you some villain, often times because facing themselves and their failures is far more difficult.

An introduction to the blog, where I hope to offer candid thoughts on my life as a Domme.